“I am ready for love, why are you hiding from me…”is the powerful first line to the song, Ready for love, written by India Arie. In the song she affirms her desire to be in a relationship. In this song like in life it is filled with layers that focus on only on the hopeful, idealized version of romantic love but also on the unpleasantness and the dark side that is love. If you are not quite prepared for love chances are you will have a hard time dealing with side of love that is unpleasant. I understand that there is no set way to prepare for love but I wanted to share with my audience 7 ways on how to get ready for it, especially, for those who have an immediate desire to be in a romantic relationship. Before I get into the 7 tips I must stress how important it is to prepare to become your best self in the process.
- First things first, you want to take responsibility for your role in your love life.
Take this time to reflect on the role that you played in it. For instance if you have been attracted to people who were bad communicators and when that problem surfaced you were at a loss for words then I would recommend taking this opportunity to practice expressing yourself in a free way. Once you become an open communicator you will begin to attract people who share their inner most thoughts with you.
- Let go of the baggage that is your negative thoughts
Did you know that what you think affects how you feel, which subsequently, affects how you act? How do you know when your thoughts are negative? If they make you feel constricted, stressed, or closed off chances ae your thoughts are negative. The more were able to realize when these thoughts come into our minds than the more we are able to drop these thoughts so that room can be made for positive thoughts.
- Take on the qualities that you seek in another
In order to attract someone with specific qualities and traits that you desire, you must first embody these qualities. I would recommend choosing 6 qualities you want in a special someone and look within yourself to see if you have these qualities. If you do not possess them than we have some work to do.
- Be open to doing things you were unwilling to do in the past
If you continue to do things the same way, you can expect the same results. However, if you switch things up, the outcome may be different. Say for instance you were always against online dating for whatever the reason but then you decided to give it a go. You may very well find your special someone just by trying something you were not used to doing.
- Be okay with uncertainty
You have to be okay with allowing nature to take its course no matter how uncertain it may be. Don’t get me wrong I think it is great to be clear on what you want and to go after it, but at the same time you have to let what is going to happen, happen.
- Visualize through images and feeling the love that you desire
Now is the time more than ever for you to start holding on to the vision and the feelings that come over you when you visualize the love that you so desire. It will be a big help, especially on the days when you feel you’re loneliest.
- Think from a place of love
Make sure the thoughts that you imagine are supportive ones you believe to be loving truths.
I know that it is going to take a whole lot more than thinking, hoping and wishing to have the love that we desire, however if we are able to activate the process by changing the way that we think than it is a start. I hope that after reading this blog that your heart will open up once again to the love that you not only deserve but that you also desire.
As always I thank you for reading. Until next time, take care and be true.