“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
If you want to be great you have to constantly put in the work and you have to know that excellent habits come from what we repeatedly do. It is one thing to know greatness but it is another thing to be great. I believe that is why it is so hard to change for the better. When we are challenged to do better we often go into that scenario with the same old habits, hoping desperately for different results. Habits and change are one of those things that are difficult to do, but trust you me when I say that it can happen. In this blog post we are going to discuss some simple yet key steps on how to change our behavior.
- Write it down
You want to write down your plan and do so with one habit at a time. If you do so, it will increase your probability of being successful.
- Identify your triggers and replacement habits
Early on you want to identify what your triggers are or that habit or behavior and come up with positive behaviors/habits that you can replace that trigger with. For instance, if you are a smoker and one of your triggers to smoking is having sex. I would replace the smoking after sex with a healthy light snack.
- For 30 days, focus on utilizing the replacement habits every time the triggers happen.
They say it takes 30 days to make or break a habit: so really focus your time and energy while in those 30 days to being consistent. Every single time you are triggered replace that occurrence with a positive replacement habit.
- Start small
Since behavior/habit change is so difficult you want to start small. Say for instance you want to learn how to be more patient. You want to slowly and in small increments work your way up to doing that. One can practice patience by waiting in a long grocery store line and then work their way up to harder tasks that demonstrate patience.
- Know what your motivations are and make sure its strong proofed
Motivations are clear reasons as to why you are working on a set behavior/habit – Included in the details are the strong benefits of why you are doing what you are doing. For example, it’s not usually enough to say that I want to quit smoking for vanity reasons. Often times there has to be someone behind your desire to quit smoking. If you want to quit smoking because you want to be around for your kids you will be more apt to stick to your behavior change if what’s motivating you is strong.
- Write down all your road blocks
If you are like me, you have probably tried and failed at changing a habit before doing it again. What you want to do is reflect on those failures, and figure out what stopped you from succeeding. Write down every single road block that you could ever think of and come up with efforts at solution for them.
- Ask for help and make sure you have a support system
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from those in your support system or online forum. Whether that is a family member, friend, co-worker, online group, etc. You want to reach out when you feel tempted to break your positive streak in your change of behavior.
Greatness is in us all. I hope you have enjoyed these key tips. Let us remember that we just have to be consistent in modeling positive behavior and the rest will follow. I thank you so much for reading. Until next time, take care and be true.